NARCISSISM

Narcissism is often interpreted in popular culture as a person who’s in love with him or herself. It is more accurate to characterize the pathological narcissist as someone who’s in love with an idealized self-image, which they project in order to avoid feeling (and being seen as) the real, disenfranchised, wounded self.

Deep down, most pathological narcissists feel like the “ugly duckling,” even if they painfully don’t want to admit it. How do you know when you’re dealing with a narcissist? While most of us are guilty of some of the behaviors at one time or another, a pathological narcissist tends to dwell habitually in several of the personas, while remaining largely unaware of (or unconcerned with) how his or her actions affect others.

1. Conversation Hoarder.
The narcissist loves to talk about him or herself, and doesn’t give you a chance to take part in a two-way conversation. You struggle to have your views and feelings heard. When you do get a word in, if it’s not in agreement with the narcissist, your comments are likely to be corrected, dismissed, or ignored.

2. Conversation Interrupter.
While many people have the poor communication habit of interrupting others, the narcissist interrupts and quickly switches the focus back to him/herself. He/she shows little genuine interest in you.

3. Boundary Violator.
Shows wanton disregard for other people’s thoughts, feelings, possessions, and physical space. Oversteps and uses others without consideration or sensitivity. Borrows items or money without returning. Breaks promises and obligations repeatedly. Shows little remorse and blames the victim for one’s own lack of respect.

4. Charmer.
Narcissists can be very charismatic and persuasive. When they’re interested in you (for their own gratification), they make you feel very special and wanted. However, once they lose interest in you (most likely after they’ve gotten what they want, or become bored), they may drop you without a second thought. A narcissist can be very engaging and sociable, as long as you’re fulfilling what he/she desires, and giving him/her all of your attention.

5.Grandiose Personality.
Thinking of oneself as a hero or heroine, a prince or princess, or one of a kind special person. Some narcissists have an exaggerated sense of self-importance, believing that others cannot live or survive without his or her magnificent contributions.

Are you a Narcissist?